Spanking

By Selwyn Duke

Taking a leaf out of what may be the the last chapter of western European civilization, the People’s Republic of Massachusetts is contemplating an anti-spanking law.  Such laws have long been in place in nations such as Germany and Sweden, so it was only a matter of time before leftists here tried to impose their flawed parenting paradigm through government.

I really find this to be the epitome of hubris.  Corporal punishment has been a staple of child-rearing since time immemorial in all corners of the Earth; yet, a bunch of psycho-babblers — people educated beyond their intelligence — believe they have license to ignore age-old wisdom and socially re-engineer civilization. 

We’ve all heard the arguments against spanking, such as the tripe about how it "teaches violence."

Poppycock. 

I refuted this notion in a piece I wrote this year titled "Does Violence Need to be Taught"; the answer is an emphatic "no."  It definitely does not.  I also wrote some snap commentary on the beauty of punishment just recently.   

People who advocate such insanity know nothing about man’s nature.  They generally raise ill-behaved brats and, proving that misery loves company, then want to impose their corruptive permissiveness on the rest of us.  As to this, it has been my observation that psychologists — who provide a specious scientific basis for this permissiveness — tend to have the rudest, most undisciplined children. 

Now, would you give your car to an auto mechanic if he couldn’t even keep his own vehicle running?  Would you take golf lessons from a duffer who couldn’t break 120?  In reality, psycho-babblers are the last ones who should be lecturing others about parenting.  Physician, heal thyself.

As for the fanciful, Rousseauesque idea that violence has to be taught, it seems as if those who subscribe to it never had toddlers.  Either that, or they never spent time with them because they did have nannies.

I recently stayed with a couple of friends who have two children that age, and despite their being good little souls, watching them would disabuse you of any notion that violence must be learned.  If given carte blanche, the older one would push his younger brother around incessantly.  And then there was the biting.  They would sometimes try to bite each other when angry.  Who taught them that?  No one ever bit these boys until one of them bit the other. 

The truth is that we have violence on the brain; we have fallen victim to the idea that all hitting is equal.  That is, equally bad.  But just as there’s a difference between hitting someone in self-defense and doing so motivated by sadistic impulses, so is there a difference between a child hitting a sibling out of anger and his father hitting him to deter that behavior.  And only an ideologue won’t accept this distinction. 

Moreover, a parent needs something that will act as a deterrent to bad behavior because, I hate to break it to you, compliments and raising children’s "self-esteem" only serve to make them egotistical ill-behaved brats.  So what will this stick be?  Would it be a removal of privileges, a grounding, or the oh-so-effective "time-out"? 

OK, if such a thing is effective, why?  If the child liked the measure or was indifferent about it, it wouldn’t have a corrective effect.  It could only have an effect if it caused . . . what?

Pain.

Sure, if someone is hung-up, he may not call it punishment.  He may try to scent it with the fragrance of the latest psycho-babble term, "time-out" or whatever the euphemism du jour may be.  But if these non-physical measures are effective, it’s only because they induce non-physical pain.  And is emotional pain less severe that the physical variety?

It isn’t the type of pain that determines severity, but the degree.  We all know, in fact, that emotional pain can be far worse.  Would we rather experience the pain of a flogging or that of a broken heart?  For my part, I would find physical abuse far more tolerable than emotional. 

Then, not too many suicides are caused by physical pain.  But despair is a different matter.

Think about that. 

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3 responses to “Brand Spanking Stupid”

  1. Ray Hicks Avatar
    Ray Hicks

    This isn’t the Wild West, and nothing is going to be solved by taking a child behind the barn with a switch. The only thing spanking does is relieve the frustration of parents who are unable not only to control their children, but to control themselves.
    Animals are often trained without the use of the whip. Why can’t we offer the same to our most important resource…our children? How many children are injured each year from spankings that have gone out of control? How many small lives are damaged?
    Children learn by example. We can offer our children the example of restraint, reason and love. Or, we can offer them a taste of thuggish brutality that will perpetuate itself in future generations. Spanking is simply not a legitimate child rearing tool any more.
    So, please don’t spank your kids!
    That is, unless they are in a restaurant with me; hollering, screaming, running between the tables and banging the silverware. Then please, by all means, take your hand to the little darlings’ backsides! And do it fast, before they ruin my dessert.

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  2. Paul Avatar
    Paul

    Ray there is nothing wrong with spanking. You’re spouting the same stuff the liberals do. Open your mind.

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  3. Walt Holton Avatar
    Walt Holton

    When raising a child the goal is a responsible adult when you are done. Responsible adults usually use reason when deciding good, bad, right, wrong. Children are not born with the ability to reason, that is one reason they use the word why so much; they are developing reason. However some kids won’t ask why and willfully transgress against a known law of the parents. This is where physical pain can be of benefit to the child. The problem is not corporal punishment the problem is bad parents that go too far. I would find it far more logical to ban gay sex because it is know to spread aids than to ban spanking because of a few bad parents. Far more children benefit from spanking than are harmed from it. If you want better parenting we need to hold parents to full equal account when a child transgresses against society. If a child steals the parent gets punished as well. If a parent can’t handle a child they can turn them over to Hillary. Then her village can raise them.

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